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Ciara McM's avatar

Love this theory, the compassion and self kindness is so needed in this world! It feels extra needed for anyone dealing with grief, change or major life challenges and milestones.

Thanks for sharing this! 💖

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Elizabeth Klimczak Harris's avatar

Just posted on success anxiety at 61 and BAM! This diamond is in my feed. Grabbing the book now and sharing with everyone I can.

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Shira Gill's avatar

Ooh this is delightful - ordering the book now! xx

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Anna Shadley's avatar

I’ve been thinking about this sort of thing a lot lately. We’ve programmed ourselves to optimize and push through and do more and be more, until we can’t. And then sometimes we do nothing at all because we’re in burnout. Bree's shift from “you can keep going long after you can't” to “most days is enough” is the kind of rebellion that gives me hope.

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Jennifer Probst's avatar

I too have always been a proud achiever/sufferer - grit and perseverance gave me a ton of success until it didn’t. I found in mid life I went through a metamorphosis. Downtime was no longer bad. I was no longer lazy - I was holding g space and enjoying my life I worked so hard for. This philosophy reminds me of balance and how important it is. Will definitely grab this book thank you!

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Bec Evans's avatar

I have been thinking about this all week. From your simple red dot system to how other writers have captured similar ideas - Oliver Burkeman's dailyish, Annie Dillard's 'How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.' This is a great addition - thank you for getting Bree to guest - I am keen to read her book now.

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Bree Groff's avatar

I hope you love it! And love me some Oliver Burkeman and Annie Dillard 😊

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Bec Evans's avatar

Thanks Bree. There is something about how writers (you!) are able to grab hold of that universal experience and summarise so succinctly. Like Gretchen Rubin's book of aphorisms - secrets of adulthood. I actually printed off your essay for my co-author / husband to read - beyond the original helpful idea I learned a lot about how you structured and built your argument with personal stories and quote. Thank you! And Emma will confirm that I am that much of a geek.

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Bree Groff's avatar

You printed it! I absolutely love it when an idea makes it into the 3D world.

Haha so nice to meet a fellow writing structure geek. Thank you! And a big thanks to Emma for being my editor on the piece. I of course had an editor for the book but on Substack it’s usually just me and whatever structure my brain is in the mood for that day. It was a real treat to have her edits to sharpen the piece (eg the “Most days… except” bullets were her push)

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Sally Seiffer's avatar

"Most days I remember about 'most days' "....awesome. The message I seem to be receiving from the cosmos this summer is 'don't take yourself so seriously'. This post validates the message. Thank you!

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Bree Groff's avatar

We’re all just here on earth for a good time ☀️

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Pamela Cook's avatar

Love this concept! We need to be kinder to ourselves and this is a great mantra to follow.

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Bree Groff's avatar

Its always a good idea to root for the home team 😊

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Sammy W's avatar

Great read, looking forward to reading Bree’s book.

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Bree Groff's avatar

Sammy, I hope you love it!

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Bluebooksandnotebooks's avatar

Loved this piece and this phrase! Just bought the book and I can’t wait to read! Thanks Bree and happy holidays, Emma!

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Bree Groff's avatar

Ahh thank you for getting the book! I hope it brings you lots of joy! err... most days :)

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Sarah Best's avatar

Thank you for this excellent piece Bree (and for sharing Emma)!

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Bree Groff's avatar

Sarah, I'm so glad you enjoyed it!

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Victoria Klein (VK)'s avatar

I imagine someone else has already mentioned it, but the Most Days theory is SUPER helpful for those of us who are neurodivergent (AuDHD for me specifically) ... I'm definitely adding reminders about this all over the place :)

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Susie Sandford Smith's avatar

Recently diagnosed and trying to make sense of everything and yes, this sounds like a much more manageable and kind way of doing and being. Especially as my list (and I suspect most of ours) is SO unrealistic and it's not until I consistently fail and burnout that I see how unrealistic my expectations have been.

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Bree Groff's avatar

1000%. If brains shouldn't have to "fit the mold", then our expectations of them shouldn't have to either. Most things, most days is plenty <3

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The Tao of Biscuits's avatar

I see why this resonated with you, Emma. It plain makes sense!

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Annabel Youens's avatar

So smart!!! I'm definitely getting Bree's book ❤️

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Bree Groff's avatar

Yay!! I'm so glad Annabel

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Lorene Edwards Forkner's avatar

Full throated, heart open, YES!

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Bree Groff's avatar

Yessssssss :)

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Cali Bird's avatar

Love love love this. I was someone who used to push myself hard. Like Bree, I did well from it.

Until I didn't. Long covid taught me to be kinder to myself. My energy is much better but sometimes I feel bad because I haven't done enough. But now I can say, most days I'm doing ok

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Bree Groff's avatar

I have no doubt you are <3

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